Every day is different, from one day to the next we can be up and down. With World Mental Health Day, we got to throw a spotlight on the fact that it’s okay to not be okay. But that wasn’t just yesterday – that’s a message for every day.
We all have mental health and to varying degrees we will all be affected by something in our lives that will have a detrimental effect on our mental health.
So if you’re struggling right now, it’s okay, it will pass and it may become your pivotal experience in your life. And when you’re in the storm it’s okay to not be okay.
Rarely will you question your purpose, your very existence, more so than when you’re trying to conceive, considering life itself is inherently in question. Therapists call this kind of life crisis an ‘existential crisis’. It comes with deep and profound impact on the psyche.
What we’re talking about is SHAME, and it’s deep rooted and insidious.
Shame is a powerful force with infertility. Shame is a powerful emotion on our psyche.
Shame says “I’m WRONG!” At my deepest core I am not right, I am not okay. And we don’t want people to see it, or to know it. Because we feel unworthy of love and belonging.
What we do to our physical bodies (what we eat, how much we exercise, even how much attention we pay to our posture) can impact our mental state either positively or negatively. Fertility/infertility exists within, and is influenced by, this complex interrelationship between our minds and our bodies.
It’s a fact that your body responds to the ways in which you think, feel, and act. Your thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and attitudes can affect, positively or negatively, your biological functioning. In short, your mind affects how healthy your bodies is – your fertility.
What if, by failing to treat the mind, you are reducing the effectiveness of fertility treatment outcomes?
It sounds strange doesn’t it… to be fearful of what might happen. But you’ve been doing this over and over again. What you don’t realise is that you are reliving the same experiences, so you are creating a predictable future.
Anticipatory anxiety is a term for when you feel overwhelmed by a fear of what might happen, even if it’s the kind of success we crave, like becoming pregnant. Our minds jump ahead to anticipate all of the things that could go wrong.